Monday, March 26, 2012

The Big Picture


Its been so long since I've written and I've miss this so much. Since I have been MIA, so much has happened in our world and so much continues to happen. There are so many wonderful things that are currently keeping my attention. So much art and great music, movies, clothing, fashion and AMAZING weather that I did not realize that I was yearning for. There are also tragedies, horrible sadness and constant strife that if we linger too long on them, we can be lost. I'm not going to mention these things because so many have already and they will continue to do so. I want to focus on the big picture.

We are human, no matter how we are perceived, by ourselves or others. We will make mistakes and fall, but if we are blessed to live another day then we can learn from it. I find more and more, that we get caught up in the little things, the petty things, the bullshit. I try not to use that type of language, but really, there's no other way for me to put it. I look at the current election in the USA and all the name calling and insignificant things that are making headlines, when we need solutions. I know some of you will just say its politics, but really, its not. When our fore fathers created our government, this is not what they had in mind. We have gone so far to the extreme on all sides that we are all missing the big picture. There is a reason why I love to mediate at the end of each day. The reason why I do this is; no mater how great or how low my day was I can reflection on the bigger picture. That I am still healthy and that I am alive. That I love my husband, even though he may have pissed me off and that I can't get enough of our son even if he got on my last nerve. I am grateful for my job because it allows me to care for myself and my family. And most important I am so thankful to GOD for life. Pure and simple and all around me...life.

This is the big picture. This is what I reflect upon during my meditation sessions at night. This is how I end my day and if I live to see another, I vow to continue living for the moment in that day, looking at the big picture.

God Bless you all
-Love Malinda xoxo

Sunday, March 4, 2012

The New Middle Class


Now before I get into what I want to get into, I have to remind you all that this blog is not only about positivity, but it is also about making a change for the better. Be it on an individual level, as what I do with my clients or a world wide level, I am all about empowering others and myself to better their lives and the lives of others. Now, with that said, lets get into this.

I normally don’t feel the need to let my aggressions out on Facebook. Hell, I’m normally too busy to check my Facebook half the time. But, after reading an article this past Thursday morning, I was so livid I could not contain myself. On Yahoo! Finance there was an article about a “banker” who makes $350,000 and claims that he is struggling to make it. In that same article, the author talks to others of this kind who complain about have to choose to take their kids out of private school or not being able to go to Paris or Brazil for a Bachelor party. Needless to say, my family and I are no where close to making that kind of money and even if were were in a good financial place, it would not even touch a salary of $350,000. Now, after having some time to claim down, I saw a follow up interview with this gentleman (BTW, his is not a Wall Street banker, but a Director of Marketing at a large firm). He explained that he was not complaining about his life and that the reporter misconstrued his words. He made it clear that he was making a choice to live in New York City, with his two children and wife. He also made it clear the he knows he has it good. He was trying to convey that fact that New York is not what it was ten years ago and that pay increases have stopped. He is not living that life he thought he would be living.

Well you know what sir, no one is living that life that they though they would be living ten years ago. Don't get me wrong, there are some people, just like they gentleman, who are fortunate to live a life where they don't have to worry about bills, food or having a home to stay in. And I am not knocking his success either. He worked hard to be where he is and I applaud anyone who works hard in life. However, my husband and I are both educated people, we work work hard too and yet, living on a family income that straddles the poverty line is not cutting it. We have made sacrifices and we know where are priorities are. Nonetheless, hearing someone like that talking about how his yearly bonus has shrunk to $125,000, we just have no sympathy because our annual income does not even touch that. I have had to make the decision to either pay a bill or buy groceries for that week. I still have to make that choice sometimes and I am grateful that I have family to help, when I need it. This is my reality and it is the same reality for so many or even worse. My family has heat, electric and enough food to last them until I have a chance to go to the store. They have more then enough cloths on their backs. We are just above the property level here in America, but we are blessed! This I can't say for a lot of others. People have no homes, children have no food to eat, but yet, there are those complaining that their $350,000 is not enough. If this is the case, its time to leave NYC sir!!!! Move to a place where that paycheck will get you all the things you want and more. You are one of the fortunate people sir. Stop trying to live the life you thought you could live and live the life that you have now!

This is the new reality. The world has changed and we have to change with it. We cannot live a life think about what we thought we should have gotten or what we thought we were going to get. We need to live in a sense of present. Appreciating what we have right now. If tomorrow we are blessed to have more, then we will be thankful when it happens. Until then live in the NOW!

Thursday, March 1, 2012

Everyday is new



Now, I know that last time I had an entry I was going on and on about how I was dreaming of having a daughter. And, yes, I still am. But my reality is that I had given birth to one of the most wonderful human beings on this earth. And I have to privilege, along side my husband, to raise him in to a strong, kind and amazing man.

My son Masaya is the most important person in my life. In part because I am his mother and also in part because he solely depends on me and Kenji. I will say, that having children is not for everyone. Hell, being married or in a committed relationship is not for everyone. Our social obligations have changed and that is one thing I tell my girlfriends, "Don't bow to the pressure for getting married and having a family". The consequences of doing so are disastrous. For me, I always knew I was going to be4 a mother, even if I didn't know I was going to get married, I knew I was going to have kids. Does he drive me crazy? Yes. Am I drained because not only am I a full time mom, I'm a full time working mother at that too? Hell Yeah!!! But my decision to have Masaya was the best decision I ever made. My son is a gift. A loud, energetic, loving unconditional gift from God and I think HIM everyday for blessing me. I pray I will as fortunate next time around and maybe with a little girl....time will time.

I love you Masaya and I love all of you as well.

-Malinda

P.S. those pictures are from my baby shower, that I threw along with my mother and grandmother:) Who gives themselves a baby shower?????