Friday, April 13, 2012
A Timeless battle
I was not going to write about this since my friend Betty did such a terrific job on her blog, myfriendbettysays.com , but this thing is driving me crazy! Its a timeless battle and one that has raged on for years, and most likely, it will continue to at the pace we’re going. I’m talking about stay at home mom vs. working moms. So lets do this! Round 1 DING! DING!
I make it a point NOT to watch the news. I find it horrible, depressing and frankly just overbearing and exaggerated. I prefer mindless shows on BRAVO and of course, Game of Thrones on HBO (I get so excited just thinking about it!). However, I could not resist it when I saw the backlash from Hilary Rosen comments about Ann Romney. First of all, do I think she was wrong for saying was she said, yes I do. Now do I think she lying, no. The truth, is there are stay at home moms and there are stay at home moms who are never home! I can say this because I have witnessed this first hand. Nannies and housekeepers basically raising your children for you (The Help!!!!!) while you're off to this club or shopping or having your third latte at Starbucks. Now let me be clear, I am not saying that Ann Romney is not a good mother or that she does not love her children, but there is a difference in being a mom who stays home living on a household income of, let's say, $80,000, compared to a stay at home mom, whose income is in the millions. I believe that this is what Ms. Rosen was trying to say. The fact is Mrs. Romney didn't (and lets face it, still doesn't) have to get a 9-5 job to support her family and take care of a household too. You've all heard my "woe is me" feelings about having to work because I don't have a choice and still coming home and taking care of my son, making dinner for him and my husband and still trying to find time for friends, church, romance and myself. But this is the reality of so many women and at least I have help! What about the single mothers out there? What about the single father? Do they not count in this debate because they're men? Its just stupid and childish.
Do I think I'm better or stronger or a harder worker than other moms who stay home, no. Being a stay at home mother is the hardest job there is and if I did have the choice, I WOULD stay at home with my son. But that is not the hand I have been dealt. So why, why do we women have to go back and forth on the this staying at home verses working thing??? I remember writing about the big picture and the big picture is this, there will ALWAYS be someone who has it worse off then you. On top of that, there will always be someone who has it much, much better then you. Instead of this crap ladies (and those gentlemen I mentioned earlier) why are we not debating about free health care for our kids or free university? Why are we not uniting for the real issues like jobs for those who have to work or those who choose to work?
Its a sad state of affairs when elementary bullshit has run our lives. America, we need to get it together and parents we need to unite. Our community needs to unite. How can we make things better for our kids if we are leading them by poor examples? If this is what they have to look up to then these future generations are doomed to be bitter, selfish, picky adults that can't lead, grow or create beyond their own existence. Get it together America and start making us proud!
Proud working mother who gives much respect to those Stay at Home Parents